Have you ever wondered why that one specific friend or family member never seems to evolve and transform into a more suitable person for their own life? It can be frustrating to see a loved one refusing to better their life, but there could be an interesting reason for that. See, throughout life, everyone will experience or come across a chance to change. Some embrace it as they are eager to see what it may bring into their lives, while others despise it as it brings them nothing but anxiety and confusion. Those people will do anything to prevent change from ever occurring in their lives.
People don’t resist change. They resist being changed!
-Peter Senge
There are multiple variations of change of course, but in this instance, I am referring to change that can benefit one's life for the better. Taking that first step into a new journey can later result in a better world for an individual both physically and mentally. Unfortunately, a lot of people are extremely hesitant to do so, and here are my top 5 reasons why I think that might be:
1. Fear of the unknown
When it comes to change, you never truly know what the outcome will be, and that can be extremely frightening to many. Imagine going head first into a life-altering event that could potentially make things different, but you have no idea how. Why risk it when you are comfortable where you are now? There isn’t even a guarantee that said event will change things for the better, it could make things worse. That could be a dealbreaker for those who are not accustomed to change.
From a personal experience, I have made many career changes throughout my 20’s not knowing if doing so was ever the right move or not. Some turned out bad and resulted in me becoming unemployed for several months, but others helped me learn some valuable life lessons that I still implement in my life today. If I never decided to make those changes I wouldn’t be where I am today; smarter, wiser, and more mentally tough.
Not knowing where life can take you is scary, but the experiences you will face can mold you for the better. You might run into some serious obstacles along the way, but you will learn some valuable lessons and learn to adapt, which in time will result in you not being so afraid of the unknown anymore.
2. Fear of failure.
Nobody wants to fail ever. It is gut-wrenching feeling when you have put effort into something for so long and it just doesn’t go in your favor. So much in fact, that people would just avoid it at all cost. The same goes for change. People are so afraid that if they make this major change and go for what it is they want they will fail and that scares them enough to not even attempt.
Some, just aren’t confident in their talents or abilities to perform well enough. Lack of confidence is a huge killer when it comes to one's evolution. It could be a result of a perfectionist as well. If they can’t get it right the first time, why even make a full attempt?
I hate to break it to you, but you will fail at things in life. Probably multiple times. No one ever succeeds the first time in anything. The goal isn’t to not fail, it’s to learn from your mistakes and try again until you get it right. Take a moment and assess why you failed. Maybe you didn’t study for that exam well enough, or maybe you didn’t train the right way. Whatever it is, you have to be confident in your abilities, adapt to your mistakes, and try again.
The secret of life is to fall seven times and get up eight times.
-Paulo Coelho
3. Unmotivated to leave their comfort zone.
Unfortunately, for a lot of people, they may simply not have the desire to change at all. They are way too comfortable in their current situation that they wouldn’t even give change a moment of thought. Why change anything if you are comfortable where you are now?
The problem with this mindset is that people mistake being comfortable with being in a good situation a lot. Not all the time is comfort good. You could be hindering yourself from reaching your true potential or missing out on amazing opportunities in life.
In my experience, I didn’t start enjoying life, or seeing any positive change in my life until I started to take risks and leave my comfort zone many times. Getting out of your comfort zone may be, well… uncomfortable, But it will bring much more to your life, whether it's new opportunities or just valuable lessons to learn, all of which could serve a great purpose.
Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.
-Neale Donald Walsch
4. Loss of control
A lot of people have this obsession with being in control of almost every aspect of their lives. They don’t go outside often cause it’s safe inside, or they may not take the promotion cause they don’t want to give up their current position or whatever the case may be. Some may not truly like where they are currently, but as long as they have control over everything, they are willing to deal with it. That is a horrible way to go about life.
Resisting change for the sake of control over your life is just not a healthy way to go about life. You can NEVER grow if all you seek is control over everything around you. That can damage relationships with others, cause you to miss out on life, and even send you into a downward spiral of mental health disorders especially if you are somewhere you don’t necessarily want to be.
“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.” -Brian Tracy
You can not control everything. Life is going to throw things at you that may spiral things out of control, but you can always recover. You can control yourself and adapt to that change which can turn out to be something positive in the long run.
5. Lack of support
This one is tricky, yet understandable. For many people, change may be their goal, but they may have no idea how to start. When there is no one around to help, things start to seem hopeless. Without anyone to support them, it's frustrating to try to change and become who they want to be. Without a support system or guidance, how else are you supposed to change?
In this situation, you will need to ask for help. I understand that many people dislike asking for help, but you won't make any progress unless you do. You can always seek help from people on the internet for almost anything, and there are plenty of individuals, including family, friends, and professionals in the relevant field, who are willing to offer assistance. Eventually, someone will help you, and you will improve over time.
I believe that change is necessary for personal growth, but it can be hindered by sabotage. Change is essential for individuals to become their best selves and to help others reach their full potential. Don't let the idea of change intimidate you; embrace it, as it may lead to a better life.
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